tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35557742653181588432024-02-08T09:51:47.723-05:00Definitely HumanHuman Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-25783547798589748462011-10-18T21:28:00.000-04:002011-10-18T21:28:03.587-04:00The Passe Marriage<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Last week I heard on the radio people discussing marriage. Their point was, centuries ago people's life spans were shorter allowing them to live in monogamous relationships easier. According to their argument, lifespans are considerably longer now and to expect a marriage til death do we part is not realistic. People outgrow each other over the years and life changes. Having multiple relationships throughout one's lifetime is a better expectation. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">While their argument sounds very logical, it made wonder. Marriage was an institution formed for many reasons; spiritual, economic, and political. By saying marriage is passe are we using our lifespans as an excuse not to respect this ancient covenant? It's evident in our society many people look for a way out of contracts and responsibilities through the number of law suits. By not having marriage would we be absolving ourselves from any type of commitment?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">What would our world be like without marriage? What name would you give your child? Would another ceremony would take the place of marriage? The impact on the laws and lawyers would be phenomenal. People may continue to make arguments for or against marriage. But the fact is, the covenant of marriage is so ingrained throughout our lives, it won't become passe for a long time. </span>Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-88597799827034129562011-10-11T21:03:00.000-04:002011-10-11T21:03:26.045-04:00Private Thoughts<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">A couple of weeks ago, I purchased a new journal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are so many interesting journal covers
to choose from these days.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was
difficult to choose.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Keeping a journal has always seemed to be an intimate habit
to express the thoughts you cannot share with other people.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>While I have this romantic notion of journal
keeping, I haven’t been very successful in keeping a journal at various times
in my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Having other people read
your journal without being asked and becoming offended by something you’ve
written, takes any romantic ideas about writing and crumbles them up like paper
going to the trash can.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I was
relating my journal experiences to a friend they asked the question, “Why keep
a journal if you don’t want someone else to read it?”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Admittedly, this is a very logical question.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In return my question is, “How do you express
your most intimate thoughts if you can’t write them in a private journal?”</span></div>Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-42128115154859508362011-10-09T22:13:00.002-04:002011-10-09T22:17:43.335-04:00Moving Forward<span style="color: black; font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">For over a decade now, I’ve been divorced.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The majority of the time has been spent
raising my child and working.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Time for
me has been limited.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Throughout the years
I have dated several men but the relationships have been shallow and led me
down a dead end road.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, the
divorce has left me stuck in a rut of mud along the highway of life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">There is a list of activities I have done over the years attempting
to get me “unstuck”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Volunteer work,
church, ballroom dancing, online dating, and sports are a few of the items on
the list.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Each endeavor left me with a
story but not successful in finding the right relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></div>
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This morning I was watching Joel Osteen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was explaining, we have to let go of the
past and move forward.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes instead
of God taking us from point A to point B, He may take us to point Y then back
to point B.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Many people will say you
have to move forward.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My question is,
exactly how do you move forward?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To this
day, I have not heard one person say, this was the first step I took to move
forward from this event in my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I really don’t know if anyone reads this blog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But if you do and if you have moved forward
in your life from an unfortunate event, what was your first step?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What did you do to move forward?</span></div>
Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-75229850952303796522011-04-17T17:43:00.000-04:002011-04-17T17:43:06.346-04:00Vacuuming is Sexy??<div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The other night as I was getting ready for bed, the television was playing in the background.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The televangelists, Jimmy and Karen Evans were discussing marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Specifically, they were talking about the characteristics of men that women find appealing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>According to the Evans, most women want a man to be a protector and a provider.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Mr. Evans cited a study which showed women get aroused from the smell of men’s sweat.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He went on to say it is important for men to share in the household responsibilities such as vacuuming, cooking, and cleaning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This helps women respect their husbands.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">As soon as he made the statement, I could relate to the truth of it from a personal experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Several years ago, I dated my former high school sweetheart again after many years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was a long distance relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He would come visit me every other weekend, when my child was visiting their father.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>During those weekends, I would try to cram so many activities as well as my chores making me exhausted come Monday morning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Plus, he would bring his laundry to be done while he was staying. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In addition, I felt like I had to entertain him as a guest in my home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One Sunday afternoon, as I was approaching exhaustion to complete my chores, vacuuming still needed to be done.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>While I was vacuuming, my former sweetheart sat on my couch watching sports.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He didn’t offer to help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was if I had become the hired help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then I had an epiphany.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In this relationship, I would be my former sweetheart’s provider.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would be taking care of him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here I was taking care of my young child and dog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Several years from now there would be the possibility I would have to take care of my aging parents.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The thought of adding another person to take care of was overwhelming to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It wasn’t long after the weekend mentioned above, I ended the relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The relationship ended not because he didn’t offer to vacuum but a culmination of other things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Though if he had offered to help it may have lasted longer since this woman believes a man is definitely sexy when he helps.</span></div>Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-89841828353125549422011-04-12T22:07:00.000-04:002011-04-12T22:07:59.960-04:00Same Train, Different Station<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I do not believe events and opportunities happen as a result of chance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No, I believe the smallest to the grandest occurrences are divinely planned and orchestrated.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I grow in wisdom, I see the orchestration of events performed line by line in my life, as well as the life of others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yet, there are many of life’s incidences to which I have no comprehension to their purpose.</span> <div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It appears life is now teaching me and begging me to have faith and believe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Could it be we are all riding the same train through life and our faith in ourselves and others determine the station where we stop?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A friend was sharing her initiative in buying a new house.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Several months ago she had found a house she liked but financially she wasn’t ready.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> She t</span>old herself, if the house was meant to be hers when she was ready it would be available.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sure enough, the house is still available.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is currently negotiating for the house at a great price.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Lately, I’ve been looking for a Vita-Mix blender. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like my friend, I thought if it is meant for me to have one, it will appear at a great price.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Guess what?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sunday on QVC, the Vita-Mix was on sale.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My friend and I both believed for something we wanted.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were willing to let events to flow without forcing anything to happen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And we both are receiving what we wanted.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However my friend is getting a $300,000 house and I’m getting a $500.00 blender.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe, I should have stayed on the train to the next station.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>: )</span></div>Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3555774265318158843.post-57327982090360233742011-04-11T19:26:00.000-04:002011-04-11T19:26:12.519-04:00Multiple Personalities<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It’s almost like having multiple personalities.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You need to understand, this isn’t my first time blogging.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, I have two other blogs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my other blogs, people in the small town where I live know who is writing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yet, during the course of blogging, I’ve found the need to express some ideas and events confidentially.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Expressing observations without the people I know playing detective to find out who I am referring to in certain situations.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">One of my gifts is being a good listener.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People from all walks of life open up and share some of their most intimate experiences with me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes this happens in the hallway at work, at the grocery store check-out line, or on the phone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will not betray a confidence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My goal is to share my experiences as I see people being definitely human.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>Human Kindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07682761241522791159noreply@blogger.com0