The other night as I was getting ready for bed, the television was playing in the background. The televangelists, Jimmy and Karen Evans were discussing marriage. Specifically, they were talking about the characteristics of men that women find appealing. According to the Evans, most women want a man to be a protector and a provider. Mr. Evans cited a study which showed women get aroused from the smell of men’s sweat. He went on to say it is important for men to share in the household responsibilities such as vacuuming, cooking, and cleaning. This helps women respect their husbands.
As soon as he made the statement, I could relate to the truth of it from a personal experience. Several years ago, I dated my former high school sweetheart again after many years. It was a long distance relationship. He would come visit me every other weekend, when my child was visiting their father. During those weekends, I would try to cram so many activities as well as my chores making me exhausted come Monday morning. Plus, he would bring his laundry to be done while he was staying. In addition, I felt like I had to entertain him as a guest in my home. One Sunday afternoon, as I was approaching exhaustion to complete my chores, vacuuming still needed to be done. While I was vacuuming, my former sweetheart sat on my couch watching sports. He didn’t offer to help. It was if I had become the hired help. Then I had an epiphany. In this relationship, I would be my former sweetheart’s provider. I would be taking care of him. Here I was taking care of my young child and dog. Several years from now there would be the possibility I would have to take care of my aging parents. The thought of adding another person to take care of was overwhelming to me. It wasn’t long after the weekend mentioned above, I ended the relationship. The relationship ended not because he didn’t offer to vacuum but a culmination of other things. Though if he had offered to help it may have lasted longer since this woman believes a man is definitely sexy when he helps.