Tuesday, October 18, 2011

The Passe Marriage

Last week I heard on the radio people discussing marriage.  Their point was, centuries ago people's life spans were shorter allowing them to live in monogamous relationships easier. According to their argument, lifespans are considerably longer now and to expect a marriage til death do we part is not realistic.  People outgrow each other over the years and life changes.  Having multiple relationships throughout one's lifetime is a better expectation. 

While their argument sounds very logical, it made wonder.  Marriage was an institution formed for many reasons; spiritual, economic, and political.  By saying marriage is passe are we using our lifespans as an excuse not to respect this ancient covenant?  It's evident in our society many people look for a way out of contracts and responsibilities through the number of law suits.  By not having marriage would we be absolving ourselves from any type of commitment?

What would our world be like without marriage? What name would you give your child?  Would another ceremony would take the place of marriage?  The impact on the laws and lawyers would be phenomenal. People may continue to make arguments for or against marriage. But the fact is, the covenant of marriage is so ingrained throughout our lives, it won't become passe for a long time. 

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Private Thoughts

A couple of weeks ago, I purchased a new journal.  There are so many interesting journal covers to choose from these days.  It was difficult to choose.

Keeping a journal has always seemed to be an intimate habit to express the thoughts you cannot share with other people.  While I have this romantic notion of journal keeping, I haven’t been very successful in keeping a journal at various times in my life.  Having other people read your journal without being asked and becoming offended by something you’ve written, takes any romantic ideas about writing and crumbles them up like paper going to the trash can.  As I was relating my journal experiences to a friend they asked the question, “Why keep a journal if you don’t want someone else to read it?”

Admittedly, this is a very logical question.  In return my question is, “How do you express your most intimate thoughts if you can’t write them in a private journal?”

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Moving Forward

For over a decade now, I’ve been divorced.  The majority of the time has been spent raising my child and working.  Time for me has been limited.  Throughout the years I have dated several men but the relationships have been shallow and led me down a dead end road.  In essence, the divorce has left me stuck in a rut of mud along the highway of life.

There is a list of activities I have done over the years attempting to get me “unstuck”.  Volunteer work, church, ballroom dancing, online dating, and sports are a few of the items on the list.  Each endeavor left me with a story but not successful in finding the right relationship. 

This morning I was watching Joel Osteen.  He was explaining, we have to let go of the past and move forward.  Sometimes instead of God taking us from point A to point B, He may take us to point Y then back to point B.  Many people will say you have to move forward.  My question is, exactly how do you move forward?  To this day, I have not heard one person say, this was the first step I took to move forward from this event in my life. 

I really don’t know if anyone reads this blog.  But if you do and if you have moved forward in your life from an unfortunate event, what was your first step?  What did you do to move forward?